I was talking with my coworker the other day about slow mornings. You know, the kind of morning where you have time to intentionally practice the things that ground you and feed your soul. It might be about reading the newspaper with a cup of coffee, or watching the sunrise. It might be about sitting in silence for meditation or spending time cuddling with your pet. Slow mornings, don’t necessarily have to be weekend mornings, they just need to involve a relaxed, intentional start to the day. I try to have slow mornings every morning by waking up early enough to have time to start my day with ease. Happy Weekend!
I recently came across a great metaphor for the mind in “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” by Robin Sharma. Sharma directs the reader to think of your mind like a garden. Negative thoughts are the weeds, positive thoughts are the flowers, and it’s our responsibility to care for our garden. If you want your mind to be efficient, sharp, and happy, you must tend to your mind like you would a beautiful garden, with intention. There’s the care of the soil, the watering, planting of seeds, and pulling of weeds on a regular basis. Too many people do zero maintenance on their minds, and then wonder why they’re so unhappy, why their garden has been overgrown with weeds. Weeds need to be pulled before they spread and overtake your flowers. Developing a consistent response to negative thoughts to prevent them from growing is how you manage the weeds. Developing positive thinking routines or habits is how you plant and tend the flowers. Practicing regular activities which nurture the mind, body and spirit is like watering your flowers. Finally, getting good sleep, keeping your body healthy so the mind can remain healthy is like the fertilizing of the soil. You must continue to tend your garden, to nurture and maintain the flowers, to pull the weeds, and to water and fertilize the soil. You can’t create a beautiful garden, stop pulling the weeds, and then expect the garden to remain beautiful. So too with the mind. Once you’ve found habits and routines that put you into a good emotional space, continue practicing these routines. Do regular maintenance on your mind, clean the stress on a weekly basis and continue to nurture positive thinking. Don’t let the weeds grow. Negative thoughts, much like weeds will grow faster than your flowers if you let them, so don’t.
For the pulling of the weeds:
For the Planting of the Flowers:
For the Watering of the Flowers:
For the Fertilizing of the Soil:
This quote showed up in the book I’m currently reading and it’s so true. Life is often about strengthening yourself ceaselessly. The best way to do this, is to put intention towards growing, to seek out experiences which force you out of your comfort zone, and then to take on the challenge when the universe brings opportunity for growth your way. Sometimes, this can be scary. I know I’ve had times when my ego brings up all of the objectives for why I shouldn’t try something, but then I realize it’s just fear. And, fear is a north star. It guides you towards what’s important and what will help you grow. Fear is evidence that something’s important. Tony Robbins said something along the lines of “growth is life” meaning that if we aren’t growing, we aren’t living. “Good people strengthen themselves ceaselessly.” Happy Weekend!
The better you get at recognizing when and responding to the signs you’re off balance, the more in harmony you’ll remain. Some of these signs are subtle, but if you can listen when the body is whispering to you, you’ll rarely have to experience its screams. Signs you’re off balance are really an opportunity to rebalance, and harmonize. Do extra self-care, get out into nature, take a restorative yoga class, or practice deep breathing/meditation techniques. Below are a few links to help you harmonize when things are out of balance:
Auggie finally got his last round of immunizations, which means, we’ve been able to go out as a family. Bringing him out and seeing the world through his eyes has been such a simple pleasure. Watching his excitement during his very first beach visit, seeing the joy that simple walks around the neighborhood bring him reminds me how simple life can be. The time spent couped up while we waited for Auggie to get his last shots, also made us appreciate how nice it is to be able to go out, together. This was something we had always taken for granted, and that I now cherish. Happy Weekend!
Recently, I had a realization about myself. I realized I never allow myself to be proud of where I’m at, and what I’ve accomplished. I’m always too busy looking to the next goal, working on the next step, to stop, take pause, and celebrate how far I’ve come. The interesting thing is, we don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are, and more of what we feel. This is a major concept in the law of attraction (read more about it here), but it’s also been explained in different ways throughout history. Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. both believed something similar, advocating that the means must meet the end. Peace movements are rooted in the belief that you can’t reach a peaceful end with violent means. You can’t find love by feeling hatred. You can’t expect a happy retirement if your means of getting there was unhappy, and you can’t expect to suddenly feel proud of yourself when you do accomplish something, if you’ve never allowed yourself to feel proud of your wins in the past. Again, the means must match the end result that your wanting. If I never allow myself to feel proud, accomplished, and secure, I am not in alignment with the goals I want to accomplish because those goals, for me, equal pride, a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of security. When you’re feeling ‘hungry’ for something, you are in alignment with the feeling of not having that thing, and essentially then blocking it from coming into your life. Thus, celebrating your wins, cultivating positive feelings, practicing gratitude, and releasing yearning are all ways of breaking down your own internal barriers towards life goals. So, really, it may be about feeling first, and acting second. The choices you make and actions you take when you are feeling happy are going to be more likely to lead you to more happiness, whereas the choices you make and the actions you take when you’re feeling angry are more likely to lead you to more anger. If you want to feel happier, practice things that make you feel happy (e.g. hobbies, time with friends) and you will be more likely to attract relationships, jobs, and experiences that make you more happier. Below are 3 steps you can take to harness this concept for more happiness, success, and contentment:
Identify the feelings associated with what you are wanting. Think about what you want to attract into your life, and then imagine how you will feel when you do get those things. Is it a sense of peace, security, pride, happiness, or love?
Cultivate the feelings associated with your goals. If you want to be aligned with your goals, cultivate the feelings associated with those goals. For example, if I want to be financially successful and the feelings associated with success include, a sense of security, happiness, and contentment, I may find alternative ways to gain these feelings such as yoga classes, practicing reassuring or empowering affirmations, and meditating.
Practice gratitude. Gratitude is a cure for negative emotions. Practicing gratitude allows you to attract more gratitude into your life. Practicing gratitude helps to decrease that sense of yearning for that which you don’t have, so you can re-gain your sense of power and feel empowered to make positive choices in your life. When in doubt, practice gratitude, because chances are gratitude is aligned with whatever it is that you are wanting.
One common misconception is that practicing the law of attraction means you don’t take any action. That is simply not true. The best way to utilize these techniques is to feel good, and then take action. Again, choices made with positive feelings are going to be more aligned with what you’re wanting. If you’re feeling like a failure, you’re less likely to make the sale you’ve been working towards, or to nail that job interview. Get into alignment with what you’re wanting, then take the steps to work towards your goals. Work hard, but feel good doing it.
This quote is talking about the things our minds turn into dragons: fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection. Often fear can be our guide. Fear can be an “x” on the treasure map, showing us where we need to grow, or what we need to heal. When we do something we’re afraid of, we show it love and it transforms. Elizabeth Gilbert said you can’t serve two masters, and often you must choose between love or fear. Choose love. Happy weekend!
I can’t believe I haven’t posted a playlist for 2018! Music is something I love! I’m always looking for new songs, new artists, and truly believe in the power of music to influence emotions. We have discovered so many new songs in the past few months, but I selected my absolute favorites to share with you all. Below is my current fall 2018 playlist. Let me know which song is your favorite and I hope you discover at least one song that you love!
HAPPINESS | COLLECTIVE FALL 2018 PLAYLIST
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Holding hands is something simple and special. I’m not sure where it started or why it started but it’s something that feels so natural. It’s representative of a union, a sense of comfort and security. We love it at all ages, from the time when we were little kids, holding onto our mother’s hand before crossing the street, to the time we are old, holding our grandchildren’s hands. Get a hold of a hand this weekend, even if it’s your own. Happy Weekend!
I’ve recently read some amazing books and I thought I’d share them with you. I recommend all of these books for different reasons. I’ll give you my take on each one below:
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success : This book was an easy read, and definitely gave my husband and I food for thought. The seven spiritual laws of success are Depak Chopra’s 7 laws for happy, abundant living. This book was simple and concise, but inspiring and thought provoking. It’s an easy read but definitely provides some counterintuitive advice. If you’re interested in the law of attraction, this book is a must-read. While Chopra never mentions the law of attraction in the book, these principles are definitely in alignment with it.
Creating Affluence: Another one of Deepak Chopra’s works. This book is similar to the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, but even more concise. Each page addresses a different concept for attracting abundance into your life. This is a perfect book for a morning routine as you can read one page everyday in very little time, and each concept is an inspiring, thought-provoking idea you can practice putting into action throughout the rest of your day. I checked this one out from the library but am considering purchasing to have for future reference. This book is also in alignment with Law of Attraction principles.
Bringing Yoga to Life: This book will always have a special place in my heart, as I read it throughout our Bali trip. If you are a yogi, this is a must read. Donna Farhi has so much wisdom, and truly understands what it means to practice yoga. This book does not address yoga postures one bit, but rather discusses the yoga philosophy with real-life examples from Donna’s life that make the concepts easy to understand. Again, a guide for living life, and practicing yoga. As I read, I underlined important or poignant statements and I still flip through it to re-read those ideas. I can honestly say that I’m a better person because I read this book.
The War of Art: This is another must read, for everyone. The War of Art is a book about resistance, all the ways it shows up in one’s life, and how to overcome it. Resistance shows up anytime we attempt to make a positive change in our lives. Everyone experiences resistance, and therefore everyone can benefit from this book. This was such a simple read, each page packed full of inspiration and wisdom. Every page addresses another aspect of resistance and thus can be read all at once, or used as a 1-page-per-day type of book. I purchased this book after returning it to the library to have and reference when needed. You will feel so pumped up and unstoppable after reading this. If you need that extra push to make a change in your life, this is the book for you.
I am always on the hunt for new reads so let me know in the comments below if you have any suggestions! Happy reading, and I hope you found some new book ideas above.